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Smart but Struggling: Why School Accommodations Might Not be Working | Dr. Amy Moore & Sandy Zamalis

The gap between being “smart” and “struggling” often confuses parents, especially when school accommodations don’t seem to be working. Dr. Amy and Sandy dive into this critical topic, exploring how cognitive processing differs from academic learning and why this distinction matters for your child’s future.

Your child’s brain isn’t just responsible for thinking and learning—it processes emotions too. When cognitive skills like working memory, processing speed, or reasoning are weak, it affects everything from test performance to social interactions. A child who struggles to process information efficiently experiences frustration that can manifest as behavioral problems, avoidance, or diminished self-confidence. As one parent shared, “My vibrant child began to wilt because he just felt like a failure.”

The conversation tackles the tough question many parents ask: how far behind is too far behind? While temporary slowdowns in specific subjects aren’t concerning, persistent patterns of struggle across multiple areas signal deeper cognitive issues that won’t simply resolve with time. These struggles eventually impact self-esteem and emotional well-being, sometimes in ways children can’t articulate until they face a significant challenge.

Most educational approaches rely heavily on accommodations rather than addressing underlying cognitive weaknesses. While extra time or modified assignments help in the moment, they don’t prepare children for college or careers where such accommodations may be limited or unavailable. Building cognitive skills creates long-term solutions that allow children to function independently throughout life.

When parents disagree about interventions, the key is moving beyond arguments about the present to discuss fears about the future. What happens if we don’t address these issues now? What are the long-term implications for independence and success? By strengthening cognitive skills, we don’t change who children are—we free them from unnecessary struggles so their unique gifts can truly shine.

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Decoding Bedtime Battles in ADHD: Tailoring Sleep Routines for Sensory Needs | Dr. Amy Moore

Amy Moore, PhD

Sleep struggles can feel like a nightly battle when parenting a child with ADHD. But what if the solution isn’t another sticker chart or stricter routine—but understanding the unique way your child’s brain processes sensory information?

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy talk about how during a recent webinar on focus and attention for homeschooling families, one question dominated our Q&A session: “How do I help my ADHD child sleep?” This reflects a universal challenge as sleep disruption affects nearly every aspect of family life. The science explains why: children with ADHD typically experience altered sleep patterns, struggling to fall asleep, stay asleep, or sleeping for shorter durations. What many parents don’t realize is that their own exhaustion and frustration at bedtime can actually make the problem worse through mirror neurons—special brain cells that make emotions contagious between people who care about each other.

The game-changer for many families starts with identifying whether your child is a sensory seeker or a sensory avoider. Sensory seekers—those kids who run laps around the house and dive into couch cushions—need additional stimulation to calm down. They benefit from weighted blankets, textured bedding, rhythmic sounds, or rocking motions. Meanwhile, sensory avoiders become overwhelmed by too much input and need darker rooms, minimal noise, and softer textures. Understanding this fundamental difference allows you to create a bedroom environment that serves as your child’s sensory sanctuary.

Beyond environmental adjustments, be mindful that blue light from screens biologically blocks melatonin release, signaling to the brain that it’s still daytime. This makes the no-screens-before-bed rule not arbitrary, but physiologically necessary. Quality sleep literally cleanses your child’s brain, washing away toxins that accumulate during the day’s neural activity. Without this cleansing process, cognitive function, emotional regulation, and learning capacity—areas where neurodivergent children already struggle—become even more challenging. By tailoring sleep routines to your child’s unique sensory profile, you’re not just improving nights, you’re setting them up for better days and creating positive ripple effects throughout your family life.

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Emotion Dysregulation in Children with ADHD: Parenting Tips | Dr. Amy Moore

Amy Moore, PhD

Ever wondered why ADHD meltdowns seem so extreme and hard to manage? The answer lies in a crucial but often overlooked aspect of ADHD—emotional dysregulation—which surprisingly isn’t even included in diagnostic criteria.

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Teri dive into some neuroscience behind these emotional challenges, exploring fascinating brain differences that explain why criticism can trigger an emotional tsunami in someone with ADHD. With approximately 80% of adolescents and adults with ADHD experiencing rejection-sensitive dysphoria, understanding these brain-based reactions transforms how we respond to emotional outbursts.

Through a real-life parenting example about screen time limits, we demonstrate practical strategies for navigating boundaries without triggering meltdowns. You’ll learn why co-regulation (bringing calm to emotional fire) works better than punishment, how to teach responsibility rather than enforce compliance, and why narrowing choices helps ADHD brains make decisions when they’re paralyzed by too many options.

Most importantly, we reframe discipline as teaching rather than punishment. The word “discipline” comes from “disciple,” meaning to teach—and our goal should be equipping those with ADHD with skills to navigate their emotional landscape independently. We explain why consistency and repetition are crucial, and why working memory, long-term memory, and processing speed deficits (not just attention issues) create everyday challenges.

Whether you’re raising a child with ADHD or managing it yourself, this episode offers compassionate understanding alongside practical, science-backed strategies to transform your approach to emotional dysregulation. Come away with tools to turn frustrating interactions into opportunities for growth and learning.

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Cognitive Skills Conversations: Series Highlights | Dr. Amy, Sandy, Dr. Jody, and Kim Hanson

Amy Moore, PhD

Is your child struggling in school? On this mash-up from our Brainy Moms podcast special series on cognitive skills, we share all the highlights on what cognitive skills are, how we use them, and how to strengthen them. Listen to clips from Sandy’s interviews with our experts Dr. Amy and Dr. Jody as well as a guest appearance from Kim Hanson. In this engaging episode, we demonstrate a mental task that illustrates the interplay of memory, attention, reasoning, auditory and visual processing, and processing speed skills at work. Our lively discussions cover how each skill contributes to problem-solving and why strengthening them is crucial for both children and adults. Discover insights that will help you identify red flags as well as how to nurture these skills for academic and life success. This episode is packed with practical insights for parents eager to support their children’s cognitive development and understand the impact of these skills on learning.

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Inattentive ADHD: Support for Your Child, Teen, and Spouse with Dr. Amy Moore and Sandy Zamalis

Amy Moore, PhD

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore chats with Sandy Zamalis about inattentive ADHD in children, teens, and adults. This subtype of ADHD is often overlooked and underdiagnosed because it manifests in behaviors that are less disruptive to a learning environment than the hyperactive subtype of ADHD. They share the criteria used to diagnose the inattentive type of ADHD, along with some strategies and techniques for supporting and communicating with a loved one with inattentive ADHD. Whether it’s a child, teen, or spouse with ADHD in your life, you can reframe your thinking to help from a place of empathy.

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Parenting an ADHD Child When You Have ADHD, Too with Dr. Amy Moore and Sandy Zamalis

Amy Moore, PhD

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy get real about raising a child with ADHD when you have it yourself. See, Dr. Amy is not only a cognitive psychologist and brain training researcher, but also an ADHD mom and a mom with ADHD. Touching on subjects like self-regulation, nutrition, the effects of ADHD on relationships, and the cognitive skills that often tend to underperform (beyond just attention!), you’ll learn about some of the strategies Dr. Amy has implemented in her own life, as well as what she’s learned about adult ADHD in her research.

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How Visual Processing Impacts Learning and Life with guest Kim Hanson

Amy Moore, PhD

Continuing our series on cognitive skills, Dr. Amy and Sandy welcomed LearningRx CEO Kim Hanson to the Brainy Moms podcast. Kim explains for our listeners what visual processing is (hint: it’s more about the brain than the eyes), why we need it to be strong learners and readers, and how parents can help boost the skill at home. Kim shares examples of ways that weak processing skills can impact everything from driving and reading comprehension to using maps and doing math problems. Tune in to learn what red flags may indicate that your child or teen has challenges with visual processing and a potential intervention to target and train the skill to help your student live up to their full potential in school, work, sports, and life in general.

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Understanding Auditory Processing: How to Help the Brain “Hear” Better with Dr. Jody Jedlicka and Sandy Zamalis

Amy Moore, PhD

If your child or teen has every struggled in school, your first instinct might have been to enroll them in tutoring. It makes sense, as that’s the intervention most parents are familiar with. But there are two parts to smart: the knowledge you acquire (e.g., history facts or math formulas) and how we process that information (e.g., learning, memorizing, understanding how and when to apply that math formula). Brain training helps with the latter. Today, cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore and board-certified cognitive specialist Sandy Zamalis sit down to explain how to determine which intervention might best help your student based on their specific struggles, as well as how cognitive skills training addresses the root cause of learning challenges. They also offer some insight to help boost cognitive skills at home, including some free resources being offered to listeners. Whether you’ve tried tutoring with little (or temporary) results or are just starting your research into interventions to help your struggling student, you won’t want to miss this important episode.

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Tutoring vs. Brain Training: Interventions for Students Who Struggle with Dr. Amy Moore and Sandy Zamalis

Amy Moore, PhD

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How to Build Strong Reasoning Skills & the Foundation of Critical Thinking with Dr. Amy Moore and Sandy Zamalis

Amy Moore, PhD

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore and board-certified cognitive specialist Sandy Zamalis continue our series on cognitive skills, focusing on logic & reasoning. Find out why this higher-level thinking skill is so vital—not only to subjects like math and science, but also reading and test-taking. You’ll even hear how behavior can be affected by underdeveloped logic and reasoning skills, including poor decision-making skills, and how parents can help guide their kids and teens to boost these skills. You’ll learn why critical thinking skills require strong underlying cognitive skills, as well as two free resources available for download.

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