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Self-Harm In Teens: Advice for Parents Navigating Non-Suicidal Self Injury | Stacy Schaffer

Teen pain often wants proof, and too many families discover self-harm the hardest way—by finding the evidence. Dr. Amy sits down with returning guest Stacy Schaffer, a licensed professional counselor, to unpack non-suicidal self-injury with clarity and care. We name what NSSI is and isn’t, explore why it seems to provide fast relief to hurting teens, and talk through what to do the moment a teen opens up. You’ll hear how shame keeps kids silent, how calm presence invites honesty, and why a clear plan beats punishment every time.

We dig into real-world guidance for parents, coaches, and teachers: how to thank a teen for their trust, offer choices for bringing caregivers into the conversation, and separate safety steps from secrecy-inducing consequences. Stacy explains the addictive loop—dopamine, relief, and reinforcement—that can build around cutting or burning, and how speaking to a teen’s own values and near-future moments (prom, summer jobs, sports uniforms) often lands better than distant warnings. We also highlight the long tail of scars and how regret can surface even after the behavior stops.

Most importantly, we share practical tools to bridge the urges: sensory substitutions like sour candy, ice, and specialized fidgets that create safe discomfort; 15-minute “urge surfing” to let intensity pass; and when tracking “sober days” can motivate rather than shame. We cover safety planning—locking up sharps without locking down trust—and the power of a supportive circle of adults beyond the home. Throughout, we keep the focus on curiosity over judgment and parenting the child you have in today’s always-watched, always-connected world.

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Gaslighting, Narcissism, and Other Teen Buzzwords: A Therapist’s Guide for Parents | Stacy Schaffer

Amy Moore, PhD

Teens today live at the intersection of real mental health risks and viral misused language like gaslighting, narcissism, and DID. On this episode of The Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy sat down with children’s therapist Stacy Schaffer to unpack how parents can support mental health without turning every rough patch into a diagnosis. Stacy shares the story behind her new book and the core idea that guides her work: integrate tough histories into practical, present-day tools so kids feel seen, safe, and capable.

We dig into the messy middle of modern childhood—where TikTok trends meet group-chat drama and where grooming, exclusion, and “subtle” cruelty often fly under the bullying radar. Stacy offers concrete steps for delaying social platforms, keeping an open pulse on online connections, and having frank, age-appropriate talks about consent, safety, and the law. We also explore why framing therapy as a gift changes everything, and how to invite teens into the process so they feel respected rather than “sent.”

A big theme is language. Words like trauma, gaslighting, narcissist, and DID carry weight and meaning; when they get stretched to cover discomfort or disagreement, everyone loses clarity. Stacy walks us through what those terms actually mean, when they apply, and how to teach kids a simple 1–10 scale that builds perspective without dismissing pain. We also clarify dissociation versus dissociative identity disorder and offer scripts that keep compassion high while holding responsibility steady: “You’re in charge of all your parts.”

Along the way, we talk about modeling healthy conflict at home, building emotion regulation, and helping kids collect “data” from hard moments they survived. If you’ve wondered how to respond when your teen throws out a buzzword, how to know when it’s time for counseling, or how to keep kids safer online, this conversation delivers calm, clear guidance you can use today.

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Raising Career-Ready Kids | Dr. Tega Edwin

Amy Moore, PhD

What if helping your kid find “the right career” starts with removing the pressure to choose one? On this episode of The Brainy Moms Podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy sit down with counselor and career coach Dr. Tega Edwin to rethink how families approach work, college, and the messy middle in between. From fifth-grade classrooms to college advising offices, she’s seen how early biases about gender and prestige quietly close doors—and how simple exposure to real people in diverse roles opens them again.

We unpack a practical roadmap: start with exploration in childhood, not decisions; move into skill-building and option-finding in the teen years; and treat careers as fluid expressions of who we are, not final destinations. Dr. Tega shares classroom-tested ideas that make pathways tangible. For parents guiding older teens, we dig into smarter college strategy—sampling classes, staying undeclared when helpful, using career services early, and avoiding the debt spiral of constant major changes. You’ll also hear how to translate any degree into marketable skills, and why “What Can I Do With This Major?” belongs in every family’s toolbox.

Money worries fuel career fear, so we go straight at financial literacy: budgeting, saving, and investing as the bedrock of freedom to explore. We talk about leveraging your network for shadowing, coaching social skills for the workplace, and turning part-time jobs into lessons in EQ, advocacy, and professionalism. And when a dream is blocked—by health, academics, or reality—we talk about redirecting it without crushing it, honoring the spirit behind the goal. Along the way, we challenge parents to audit their own beliefs about work, because kids learn from what we model, not just what we say.

If you’re ready to replace anxiety with clarity and give your kids tools to pivot with purpose, hit play. Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who’s stressing about career and majors, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway so more families can find it.

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From Cancel Culture to Kitchen Tables: A Parenting, Family Values, and Weight Loss Discussion with Matty Lansdown

Amy Moore, PhD

The temperature of public disagreement feels scorching—and that heat is seeping into our homes. We dig into what it means to hold strong convictions while still honoring people, then connect that idea to everyday parenting: how we talk with our kids, how we set boundaries without shaming, and how we handle it when we don’t agree. From there, we pull back the curtain on the forces shaping our families—peer culture, dopamine-driven feeds, and convenience foods designed to hijack attention and appetite—and lay out a calmer path forward.

Joined by our favorite nutrition scientist (and new dad) Matty Lansdown, now rebranded as The Real Weight Loss Coach, we walk through why root-cause health beats quick fixes. Matty talks GLP-1 medications with clear eyes—acknowledging potential benefits while naming real side effects and the risk of unresolved binge cycles—and then outlines an alternative: nervous system safety first, sleep and stress dialed in, ingredients-first meals, strength training for muscle and metabolism, and low-risk natural experiments that respect bioindividuality. Matty’s core message is simple and radical: the body keeps the score, and lasting change begins when we feel safe enough to choose differently.

We also take on the tricky question of teens and weight. Instead of aesthetic pressure, we focus on health markers, modeling, and the quiet power of the “ingredients household.” Device-free dinners, predictable rituals, and parent-led example set the tone even when teens detour. And throughout, we return to one big takeaway: honor family values, do less, do it better. Presence lowers cortisol, steadies cravings, and makes healthy choices feel possible in real life.

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Open Education: Your Child Deserves a Learning Path as Unique as They Are | Matt Bowman

Amy Moore, PhD

Homeschooling or thinking about it? Wondering if ‘open education’ is right for your homeschooled child? What if everything we thought we knew about education was designed for a world that no longer exists? Matt Bowman, founder of OpenEd and international bestselling author, joins Dr. Amy and Sandy on this episode of The Brainy Moms Podcast to challenge the foundations of traditional education and offer a refreshingly practical alternative for today’s families who are homeschooling or considering it.

After watching all five of his children develop in completely different ways despite growing up in the same household, Matt realized that education shouldn’t be one-size-fits-all—it should be as unique as each child.

The conversation dives deep into why standard education often fails to meet individual needs. Matt explains how our current system was originally modeled after military training methods imported from Europe over 200 years ago—designed to produce obedient soldiers rather than creative, independent thinkers. This standardization approach stands in stark contrast to how children actually learn and develop.

“The real tragedy,” Matt shares, “is that this system not only fails to measure what matters in education—creativity, continuous progress, critical thinking, skill development—it actively works against it.” For parents whose children are struggling, unhappy, or just not thriving, Matt offers a revolutionary yet simple starting point: take two weeks to try something different. Give your child space to explore their interests without pressure, and watch what naturally emerges.

One of the most powerful insights Matt shares is reframing our understanding of failure. While traditional education treats failure as something to avoid at all costs, successful athletes, musicians, and entrepreneurs embrace it as essential to growth. Teaching children to see challenges as “not yet” rather than failure fundamentally transforms their relationship with learning.

With AI rapidly changing our economic landscape, the skills that matter most aren’t standardized test scores but creativity, adaptability, and entrepreneurial thinking. Matt encourages parents to tap into community resources—museums, local businesses, nature, arts programs—and integrate them into core education rather than treating them as mere enrichment.

For families ready to explore alternatives, Matt reminds us that small changes can make an enormous difference. Whether it’s adjusting schedules, exploring interests, or incorporating entrepreneurship, the goal isn’t to replicate school at home but to create learning experiences that honor each child’s unique path.

Join us to get inspired about personalizing an education that works for your unique child.

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Present, Not Perfect: How to Support Your Teen’s Mental Health Journey | Jenn Robb

Amy Moore, PhD

When your child is drowning in mental health struggles, the weight of helplessness can feel crushing. Where do you turn? How do you fight a battle you can’t even see? Nurse practitioner and author Jen Robb knows this battlefield intimately. On this episode of The Brainy Moms Podcast, she tells Dr. Amy all about it.

“We were the white picket fence, typical all-American kind of family,” Jenn shares, describing how her daughter Chloe’s mental health crisis blindsided their family. Like many parents, Jen initially retreated into silence, carrying the burden alone rather than risking judgment from others. That isolation nearly broke her.

Through raw vulnerability, Jenn guides listeners through the transformative journey from silent suffering to empowered advocacy. She challenges the notion that doctors always know best, encouraging parents to respectfully question treatment plans and seek providers who address root causes rather than simply medicating symptoms. “Your child doesn’t have a voice in that circumstance,” she reminds us. “No one is going to fight as hard for your child as you will.”

The path forward isn’t about perfection but presence. Jenn’s powerful reminder that “your child doesn’t need a perfect mom; they need a present mom” liberates parents from impossible standards while focusing on what truly matters – showing up emotionally and physically while allowing children space to feel their feelings. This delicate balance requires setting healthy boundaries not just for our children, but for ourselves as parents.

Perhaps most profound is Jenn’s perspective on surrender. After a terrifying incident where Chloe was hospitalized with alcohol poisoning, Jenn describes hearing God whisper, “As much as you love her, I love her more.” This spiritual surrender didn’t mean abandoning responsibility, but rather acknowledging her limitations and finding strength beyond herself.

Whether you’re currently navigating teen mental health challenges or simply want to be prepared, Jenn’s practical wisdom on supporting brain health through technology boundaries, sleep hygiene, and proper nutrition offers valuable tools for every family. Connect with Jenn’s supportive community at warriormomcoach.net and discover how to become the warrior your child needs during their darkest battles.

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Balancing Busy: Time Management Secrets for Working Moms | Leah Remillet

Amy Moore, PhD

Ever feel like you’re failing at work if you don’t give 110%, and failing at home if you try? You’re not alone in this impossible balancing act.

In this conversation between Dr. Amy and returning guest Leah Remillet, balance strategist and host of the Balancing Busy podcast, they tackle the myth of perfect balance head-on. Leah redefines balance not as equal attention to everything, but as “being true to what actually matters to us—not what we’re being told matters.” This perspective shift alone can liberate working moms from unnecessary guilt and perfectionism.

What makes this episode particularly powerful are the personal stories Leah and Dr. Amy share about their perceived “failures” that unexpectedly became their children’s greatest lessons. Leah worried about delegating household tasks to her kids, only to discover years later that her daughter was grateful for the confidence these responsibilities built. Similarly, Dr. Amy’s health limitations meant her husband handled most household duties—inadvertently teaching their sons that household work isn’t gender-based, but determined by capacity.

We dive deep into Leah’s practical “10 Simple Tweaks” for busy moms, exploring everything from limiting screen time and batching similar tasks to outsourcing what drains you and scheduling actual “recess” time for yourself. The science is clear: those intentional breaks make you more productive, not less, by reducing cortisol and preventing mental fatigue.

Whether you’re drowning in to-dos or simply tired of feeling pulled in too many directions, this conversation offers both permission to simplify and practical strategies to reclaim your time and energy. Your worth isn’t measured by how busy you are—and this might be the most important lesson you model for your children.

Ready to do less but better? Listen now and discover how true balance starts with being unapologetic about what matters most to you.

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Social Media and Teens: Advice on Limits, Conversations, & Safety| Jennifer Berger

Amy Moore, PhD

What if we approached teen technology and social media use more like teaching someone to drive rather than simply restricting access until they’re “old enough”? Media literacy expert Jennifer Berger joins Dr. Amy and Sandy on the Brainy Moms podcast to introduce her groundbreaking program, the Social Media Driver’s License, which does exactly that.

After two decades of teaching media literacy to over 10,000 youth, Jennifer noticed a troubling pattern in how we approach teens and technology. Most resources emphasized monitoring, restriction, and punishment – approaches that often backfire by damaging parent-teen relationships and failing to build critical digital skills. Her response? Create a collaborative, skill-building program that prepares tweens and teens to navigate online spaces independently.

The Social Media Driver’s License features a unique dual-track approach. Kids ages 10-14 participate in a 10-session course led by older teenagers sharing hard-earned wisdom about social media navigation. Parents simultaneously access an audio course covering essential topics like handling online safety concerns, addressing problematic content, and maintaining healthy conversations about technology. This structure recognizes that eventually, teens will access technology, making preparation more valuable than restriction.

Perhaps most refreshing is Berger’s emphasis on maintaining connection. Rather than villainizing teens’ digital worlds or implementing rigid, top-down rules, she advocates for genuine curiosity, collaborative boundary-setting, and calm responses when inevitable mistakes occur. As Dr. Amy notes during the conversation, “Connection is the number one buffer against mental health crisis,” making this approach particularly valuable for supporting teen wellbeing.

Ready to transform your approach to parenting in the digital age? Check out this episode!

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MTHFR and Epigenetics: Functional Medicine Insights for Parents | Dr. Randy James

Amy Moore, PhD

Wondering what all the social media chatter about genes and genetic variants (like MTHFR) really have to do with your child’s health? On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy talk to functional medicine physician Dr. Randy James about the connections between our genes, our environment, and our overall wellbeing.

Dr. James unpacks the philosophy of functional medicine, which seeks to understand the root causes of health issues rather than just masking symptoms. He explains why modern medicine often falls short when addressing chronic conditions or nebulous symptoms like fatigue, brain fog, or general unwellness. The key difference? Functional medicine recognizes that every human is “infinitely biochemically unique” and requires a personalized approach.

Dr. James breaks down how our genes and environment interact. He demystifies the often misunderstood MTHFR gene variant, which affects approximately 40% of the population to varying degrees. This genetic variation impacts methylation – a critical process involved in detoxification, neurotransmitter production, and cellular repair. Research has shown statistical associations between MTHFR variants and conditions like ADHD, autism, depression, and other mental health challenges.

But here’s where hope enters the picture: Dr. James emphasizes that genetic predispositions are not deterministic. Just as someone with fair skin doesn’t panic about their increased skin cancer risk but instead adapts with sunscreen and protective clothing, understanding your genetic variants allows you to make targeted lifestyle modifications that can dramatically improve outcomes. From prioritizing organic foods to eating plenty of green vegetables rich in natural B vitamins, these evidence-based strategies can help support optimal methylation pathways.

Parents will find particular value in Dr. James’ practical advice for supporting children with genetic predispositions. He outlines developmental red flags to watch for, explains why “normal” symptoms might not be healthy, and offers guidance for navigating the complex world of nutrition and supplementation without becoming overwhelmed.

Ready to take control of your family’s health journey? Join us for this empowering conversation that will change how you think about genes, environment, and your power to influence both.

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Sensory Processing & Emotion Regulation | Occupational Therapist Sarah Collins

Amy Moore, PhD

Ever wonder why your child can’t sit still during lessons? Why they melt down when they’re wearing certain clothes? Or why they’re suddenly screaming at you when they haven’t eaten in hours? The answer might lie in sensory processing—a critical yet often overlooked component of learning and behavior.

In this illuminating conversation on the Brainy Moms podcast, occupational therapist Sarah Collins joins Dr. Amy and Sandy to unpack how our sensory systems influence every aspect of learning and daily life. Beyond the familiar five senses we all know, she explains how our vestibular system (balance), proprioception (body awareness), and interoception (internal body signals) create the foundation for successful learning and emotional regulation.

Sarah reveals the surprising connection between body awareness and emotion regulation, backed by research showing that children who struggle to sense what’s happening in their bodies often have difficulty managing their emotions. This knowledge transforms how we understand “difficult” behaviors—what looks like defiance or lack of focus might actually be sensory overwhelm.

The homeschooling environment offers unique opportunities to accommodate sensory needs. Instead of forcing children to adapt to one-size-fits-all learning environments, parents can create flexible spaces that support each child’s sensory profile. Maybe your child comprehends better while gently rocking, standing, or even upside down! As Sarah explains, “calm” doesn’t necessarily mean “still”—it means the nervous system is regulated enough to process information effectively.

Most powerfully, Sarah shares practical strategies for identifying sensory needs and adapting environments accordingly. From morning routines that incorporate movement to sensory-friendly workspaces, these approaches can dramatically improve learning outcomes. She also discusses how to balance competing sensory needs when siblings have different—sometimes opposite—requirements for successful learning.

Ready to transform your homeschool experience? Listen now to discover how understanding sensory processing can lead to less frustration, more enjoyment, and deeper learning for your entire family.

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