Stop Helicopter Parenting: Balancing Empathy & Boundaries with Your Teens with guest Ann Coleman

At your wits end with trying to find effective consequences for your teen’s behavior? Maybe loosening the reins rather than tightening them might work better! (Hint: Stop helicopter parenting your teen!) On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy interview Ann Coleman, an attorney, parent educator, and host of the podcast, Speaking of Teens. Ann shares a deeply personal journey that many parents might find all too relatable. Imagine discovering that your child, already grappling with anxiety and ADHD, has turned to marijuana. Anne’s initial reaction was to tighten the reins through control and punishment, only to watch her relationship with her son deteriorate. However, a transformative encounter with a family counselor led her to embrace empathy and understanding, an approach she now champions through her podcast and Parent Camp program.

Ann’s story prompts us to question the long-held belief in helicopter parenting and its impact on teen autonomy. As we talk about societal pressures that push teenagers to behave beyond their developmental capabilities, there’s a stark reminder of the importance of mutual respect. The conversation veers into the pitfalls of projecting perfect family lives on social media and the real harm it can cause by stigmatizing parenting struggles. We emphasize the need for balance—between stepping in to guide teens and allowing teens to face natural consequences—a critical factor that can significantly influence adolescent development.

Through personal anecdotes and expert advice, we explore the pressures surrounding academic success and the value of redefining what it means to “succeed.” From managing the distractions of college life to understanding the significance of setting and negotiating boundaries, this episode offers a comprehensive look at fostering resilience and independence in teenagers. Ann’s insights, enriched by her own family experiences, serve as a guide for parents eager to connect with their teens in more authentic and supportive ways. Listen in to discover strategies that respect and nurture your teenager’s emerging identity while maintaining a safe and supportive environment.

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Your Teen’s Anxiety: How Chores, Community, and Connection Could Help with guest Dr. Jodi Aman

Worried about your teen’s anxiety? Dr. Jodi Aman, renowned psychotherapist and TEDx speaker, joins Dr. Amy and Sandy on this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast to uncover the root causes behind the escalating anxiety epidemic among teenagers. It’s a bold statement, but modern conveniences might be making things worse. Dr. Aman suggests that the reduction in problem-solving opportunities due to cultural shifts has led to increased negativity and entitlement among teens. She argues that chores, often seen as mundane, are vital in alleviating teen anxiety, instilling resilience, and combating negative thought patterns. By categorizing chores into tedious, challenging, and generous, we examine how each type plays a crucial role in developing essential life skills and when tying chores to allowances might be appropriate.

Teen anxiety, often misunderstood as mere fear, is redefined in our conversation as a spectrum of discomfort triggered by stress hormones. Dr. Aman challenges the misconception of anxiety as a chemical imbalance and talks about the stigma that idea creates. Our discussion also touches on the historical context of anxiety, examining how our biological instincts have evolved to manage stress.

In the final segment, we explore the power of community, activities, and genuine human connections in fostering social engagement and mental well-being. Whether through family involvement in communal activities or even community theater, these experiences are pivotal in building a sense of belonging. We also offer actionable tips to guide teenagers towards a path of self-acceptance and agency. To enhance your understanding further, we present a concise guide, accessible on the author’s website, filled with practical advice for supporting the teens in your life. 

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Surviving the Teen Years: Insights from Amy Betters-Midtvedt

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, we dive into the emotional and practical aspects of parenting teens, focusing on the importance of flexibility, trust, and communication. Dr. Amy and Dr. Jody interview educator, author, and mom of 5 Amy Betters-Midtvedt who highlights the challenges faced by parents as their kids grow, the necessity of establishing boundaries with technology, and the value of teaching effective friendship skills to create healthy social connections.

We discuss being flexible in parenting teenagers, navigating social media and privacy for teens, understanding and coaching friendships among teens, managing household responsibilities collaboratively, creating a bank of trust based on individual needs, and managing the emotions around the transition to an empty nest.

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Mindset Swaps to Skyrocket Your Joy with guest Dr. Wendy O’Connor

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy interview Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a Stanford-trained positive psychologist. After facing burnout and the whirlwind of transitioning into motherhood with three children in 15 months, Dr. Wendy transformed her career path and embraced the vibrant world of positive psychology. In this episode, she shares her journey and how she helps women harness self-trust and evidence-based methods to design lives filled with joy and purpose. Explore her unique approach of making “power swaps” to enhance happiness, starting with transforming FOMO into JOMO.

We talk about maintaining harmony in relationships while staying true to your values and priorities. We also discuss strategies to identify what quality time means for you and how to balance these personal needs with the expectations of others. Learn how to break free from the cycle of perpetual agreement, especially for those who struggle with people-pleasing tendencies, and establish boundaries that honor your authentic self without sacrificing connections with loved ones.

Finally, we talk about replacing criticism with curiosity and self-doubt with self-compassion. Learn how to take empowered actions that align with your values and navigate the pitfalls of overthinking.

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ENCORE EPISODE! Parenting a Differently Wired Kid with guest Debbie Reber

This conversation Dr. Amy and Dr. Jody had with Debbie Reber felt like a lifeline for many of us raising neurodivergent children and teens. Debbie is the author of the book, “Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope” and the founder of Tilt Parenting. Offering insights, personal stories, and guidance for listeners who may be grappling with insecurities around parenting a differently wired child, Debbie provided comfort—and useful tips—to help us all gain perspective.

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Sensory Processing Differences and Difficulties: Tools for Parents with guest Dr. Eva Lassey

Ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer range of sensory experiences your child navigates daily? On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy and Sandy discuss the world of sensory processing with Dr. Eva Lassey, a doctor of physical therapy and the visionary behind Dr. Sensory. Through her personal and professional journey, Dr. Lassey breaks down the often-confusing landscape of sensory processing disorders, helping us discern between sensory seekers and avoiders. Her insights equip parents and caregivers with the tools needed to support and understand their children’s unique sensory needs, challenging traditional perceptions of neurodiversity and the idea of “normal.”

Join us as we explore the impact of sensory processing issues on motor skills development and social interactions in children. Dr. Lassey shares practical strategies for fostering physical development through simple, engaging activities that can easily be incorporated into everyday routines. From bear walks to crab crawls, we talk about the crucial role of movement and play, especially in an age where technology sometimes hinders our children’s physical growth. Learn how the right balance of core strength, coordination, and active play can transform a child’s confidence and ability to connect with peers.

Finally, we discuss the benefits of sensory tools and fidget toys in managing focus and anxiety, featuring insights from experts like neuroscientist Dr. Christina Ledbetter. Whether it’s weighted blankets or chewable necklaces, these tools offer emotional comfort and can ground the mind, enhancing concentration, and providing a sense of calm. Dr. Lassey emphasizes the importance of trial and error to find the perfect fit for individual sensory needs, illustrating how these aids can create a supportive environment for children and adults alike. Our episode concludes with a heartfelt discussion on gratitude and the ongoing journey of supporting families in navigating sensory challenges.

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The Art of Calm and Intentional Parenting with guest Holly Swenson

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, discover the transformative power of conscious parenting as Dr. Amy and Sandy talk with with Holly Swenson, an award-winning author, nurse, and mother of four. Holly shares her groundbreaking approach to parenting, inspired by principles from her latest book, “Stop, Drop, Grow, and Glow.” Learn how the “five rights of parenting,” derived from nursing practices, can foster deeper connections and holistic wellness for both parents and children. Holly’s insights promise to reshape your understanding of parental presence and intentionality.

Explore the intricate balance of power and responsibility in parenting today. Holly and we delve into the art of embracing human vulnerability, where apologies and accountability become tools for teaching valuable life lessons to children. Understand the profound impact of personal well-being on parenting efficacy, as we highlight the critical role of self-compassion amidst stress and sleep deprivation. We shed light on the evolving dynamics across generations, advocating for a nurturing yet authoritative relationship with your children.

Uncover practical strategies to maintain harmony and resilience in your parenting journey. Holly’s “Stop, Drop, Grow, and Glow” framework offers a blueprint for managing stress and emotions, promoting mindfulness and self-awareness. From setting firm yet empathetic boundaries to distinguishing reactivity from responsiveness, this episode is packed with actionable advice. Embrace the power of love as a guiding force, and learn how to harness mindfulness techniques to transform challenges into growth opportunities for you and your family.

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